Today I’m thrilled to plugÂ thisÂ new blog that’s truly a labor of love by my father and his younger brother, ChÃº PhÃ¡n. It is a tribute to my grandfather ÃÃ m Duy Táº¡o (my Ã”ng ná»™i) who spent a lifetime studying, translating,Â annotating, and recordingÂ amongÂ several other works of literature,Â The Tale of Kim-VÃ¢n-Kiá»u (or simply Truyá»‡n Kiá»u to the Vietnamese).
Truyá»‡n Kiá»u is a poem of 3,254 verses written by Nguyen Du in chá»¯ NÃ´m, a demotic written script based onÂ Chinese charactersÂ used mostly by the Vietnamese erudite circleÂ to record literature andÂ long made obsolete by quá»‘c ngá»¯, our present Latin-based script.Â This masterpiece showcases VietnameseÂ poetry and Asian cultureÂ in their many layers of complexity.Â ItÂ spinsÂ a spellbinding tale ofÂ operatic proportionsÂ about the tragicÂ life of a beautifulÂ woman who sacrifices herself for her family under the Ming dynasty in China. In the shadows of the lyricalÂ verses, morality, politics, love, obligation, and judgment play out through the colorfulÂ characters. In fact, this work is so epic it hasÂ defined many generations of readers, and to this day you can still find any random Vietnamese who can recite a few verses from memory.Â It has beenÂ annotated several times but none to the satisfaction of my grandfather. What is it that they say…if you want something done correctly, do it yourself?
The blog publishes my grandfather’sÂ annotation and interpretationÂ of the entire poem as well as his anecdotes and explanations of every single verse.Â So 21 years after his death, the 570 typewritten pages that also include his own handwrittenÂ scriptsÂ Â are nowÂ converted to PDF by his sons and lovingly recorded via a blog so that generations of Vietnamese readers and scholars around the worldÂ can and will continue toÂ learn from theÂ extraordinary work of one unassuming man whose two loves were family and letters. I can’t even come close to the brain trust that is myÂ paternal family’sÂ legacy, but clearly,Â his two loves also course through my veins.
I’d mentioned earlier that both of my parents come from large families, so there’s obviously a huge generational gap even between siblings.Â What that means for me is that all of my grandparents have always been old to me.Â I never got to see Ã”ng ná»™i with dark hair like in this picture where he’s holding my dad’s older brother, BÃ¡c Thao,
hear him speak in a clear voice, or watch himÂ stand unhunched like he did so long ago for a picture with his young family:
Since his death inÂ Â 1988, my visual memories of him have become increasingly myopic. When I tearfully read the emotional introduction to their blog, I finally got to see my grandfather clearly. And possibly for the first time, I understood my father not from the point of view of the adult that I’ve become but that of the child that he once was. In the few words whereÂ my father and uncle vividly recall how desperately they missed their mother when the family was temporarily separated for two years and how great the shortlived reunion was until herÂ sudden death, I felt the profound loss that in many ways shaped their lives.
I’d like to share some of the stories recounted at their blog. If you canÂ read their blog in Vietnamese, some of this might be repetitive, but bear with me.Â Â I think it’s a story worth hearing.
Ã”ng Ná»™i was born in 1896, married young, and had his first son, BÃ¡c Ba, in 1921. BÃ¡c Ba was a poet in his own right–he died in 2007.Â My grandfatherÂ suffered through his first wife’s early death at the age of 26, shortly after giving birth to theirÂ second and stillbornÂ child.Â They had been married for about 6 years or so.Â A few years later, he married my grandmother,Â Nguyá»…n Thá»‹ SÃ¡u,
who died in 1955 at the age of 50; they were married for 26Â years and hadÂ 4 sons (my dad and ChÃº PhÃ¡n could be mistaken for twins)
and one daughter:
Ã”ng Ná»™i, nowÂ entering his 6th decade, was left to face single parenthood for the second time with children ranging from 7 to adult age.Â Â But by now, he was most likely used to the difficulties in life. A scholar at heart andÂ educator by vocation, he had raised his own as well asÂ an extended familyÂ on a shoe string budget but alsoÂ aÂ wealth of knowledge.
I can only imagine the heartbreak he must have felt when, in theÂ politicallyÂ troubled years of 1945-50, he had to return to a pastoral village to tend to the family farm.Â How does a man of letters even farm? And how agonizing it must have been for him to not have his own children in school during these turbulent warÂ times.
Luckily and unluckily, home schooling took on a new meaning in myÂ grandfather’s house, and neither my father nor ChÃº PhÃ¡n had any trouble succeeding once they were back in school full-time by 1950. My dad was around 9 at this point. They’re not kidding when they recall that my grandfather was strict; we’ve all known this.
From 1950 to 1952,Â he took a post in another town that led to the temporary separation of the family, with only my dad and ChÃº PhÃ¡n following my grandfather there. The prophetic longing for my grandmother was fulfilled from 1952-1954 when the entire family finally lived under one roof again. But 1954 was a tumultuous year; it was the year during whichÂ many Vietnamese families had to evacuate from the north to find freedom in the south.Â Both of my parents are from the north, and 1954 was a sort of immigration to a foreign south Vietnam.Â 1975 marked the final emigration from Vietnam when we all moved to the US as refugees. But I’m jumping ahead of myself…
By 1955, Ã”ng ná»™i was nearing retirement age; his wife had just passed;Â their only daughter, BÃ¡cÂ ÄÃ¡n,Â went offÂ to find a job in another town to help the family;Â their older son was away; and their two teenaged sons had to learn to cook and care for the family that now shared cramped quarters in a small alley in Saigon. I can’t speak for them, but I know these trying times must have broken their spirits many times over. But in adversity my father’s bond to my uncle grew stronger, and even theÂ distance brought on byÂ their eventual scholarships to study abroad (my father in America and my uncle in Australia) did not break that tie. The fact that both of them ended up in education and teaching pleased my grandfather tremendously.Â The sacrifices shouldered by all allowed the tradition of teaching to survive in yet another generation.
My father returned to VN from the US in 1965 with a wife he’d met abroad. These are some photos of their wedding reception in Saigon:
In 1969 ChÃº PhÃ¡n moved from Australia to Canada with his new wife and began his teaching post in Ontario. At this point, well into his retirement, Ã”ng Ná»™i continued to translate and annotate many works of literature from Chinese script to Vietnamese and some of theseÂ translated worksÂ were published and used by schools.Â Â Some of hisÂ final works were never published, however, due to the evacuation in April 1975 when Saigon fell.
These few days in April can’t be told here, but suffice it to say, my grandfather escaped with his youngest son, ChÃºÂ Thang,Â to a refugee camp. And it wasn’t until 1976 that ChÃº PhÃ¡n could finally sponsor them to live with him in Canada. Sometimes it’s funny how life works out; the fact that ChÃº PhÃ¡n remained abroad, in spite of a lot of guilt, allowed an opportunity in inopportune times.Â By now, Ã”ng Ná»™i was 80 years old, badly vision impaired, and painfully unable to cope with the brutal Canadian winters.
As ChÃº PhÃ¡n recounted, it was by a miracle that he found an old copy of one of the many versions ofÂ Truyá»‡n Kiá»u that my grandfather had sent him as a gift when he was studying abroad. In these battered pages my grandfather found a new reason for living. He clung toÂ the book like a lifelineÂ andÂ pored over every verse, reading and rereading night and day, and for the next six years dedicated himself to the 570 pages that now make up that blog.Â Imagine if the Internet had been around then so that he could have found solace in Vietnamese publications online.Â But perhaps had it not been for the desperation for any Vietnamese writings his final work would never have materialized. It is just a shame that he had no way of knowing how technology could now immortalize his lifetime of learning through something as mundane yet fantasticÂ as a blog.
I never got to meet the revered teacher, father, or scholar that was my grandfather. Instead IÂ metÂ a frail, gentle manÂ at the end of his 93-years journey on this earth when he came to live with us in San Antonio in the late 70s.
The Texas heat wasÂ more forgiving than the Canadian cold, but by nowÂ Ã”ng Ná»™i was beingÂ physically punished by stomach ulcers. Â Though his body was weak, his mind was strong. In the quiet moments where he tried–and I’m ashamed to say in vain–to pass on his teachings to me, or anyone, who would sit still with him, I didn’t hear it all. I listened politely but I wish I had heard it all.Â Instead my mind was wandering on its own when he spoke. I wishÂ hindsight had happened in reverse so that I couldÂ have hungÂ on to his every word. That is the sadness that lingers around me, tinged withÂ enormousÂ regret, whenever I think about those years in Texas before he finally moved back to CanadaÂ so thatÂ ChÃº Thang, who wasÂ now a doctor, could care for him till his final day.Â The problem with regret is that itÂ always shows up unannounced and overstays its welcome.
But just asÂ the words in thatÂ book gave my grandfather a second shot, I thankÂ ChÃº PhÃ¡n and my dad forÂ publishing my grandfather’s life work at the blog–it’s my second chance to listen.Â It will probably take me the rest of my life to read it enough times so that I could understand it all, but this time, I will hear everything.